All leadership—whetherand all true godly leadership, which leads to peace, harmony, and balance, is based upon the principles of God’s Law. Therefore, David the great king said to us, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom; a good understanding have all they which do His commandments. His praise endures forever.” This is in Psalm 111:10.

                                   
David starts the Psalms with Psalm 1: “Blessed is the man who walketh not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of the scornful. But his delight is in the law of the Lord and in His law does he meditate day and night. And because he does so, he shall be a tree planted by rivers of water which brings his fruit in season, his leaf shall not wither and whatsoever he does shall prosper, the ungodly are not so.”

                                   
In Psalm 119 beginning in verse 97, David says, “O how love I Thy law! It is my meditation all the day. Thou through Thy commandments hast made me wiser than my enemies, for they are ever with me. I have more understanding than all my teachers; for Thy testimonies are my meditations. I understand more than the ancients because I keep Thy precepts. I refrain my feet from every evil way that I might keep Thy word. I have not departed from Thy judgments for you have taught me. How sweet are Thy words unto my taste! It is sweeter than honey to my mouth. Through Thy precepts I get understanding; therefore, I hate every false way.”

                                   
Jesus Christ speaking in Matthew 19:13, “Then were there brought unto Him little children that He should put His hands on them and pray: and the disciples rebuked them. But Jesus said, “Suffer little children and forbid them not to come unto me: for of such as the kingdom of heaven. And He laid his hands on them, and departed thence.”

                                   
As David said, “The beginning of wisdom is the fear of the Lord.” The word “fear” here according to [Strongs], means “reverence.” And reverence means a deep iand abiding respect—our love and awe, our willingness to believe  like little children; we should be willing to believe our parents in the Lord and to believe our Heavenly Father. We should be willing to believe God, to believe Him, and to believe His commandments, to seek out His wisdom which is exemplified by His commandments. The list of commandments is a list of the pearls of wisdom which He has for mankind. We need to believe Him, seek out His will, seek out His commandments, and dwell on Him not just read them and forget them, but meditate on them. Think about them, try and understand them, try to and apply them to various situations. And in so doing we develop wisdom, we develop wisdom not just by thinking; but by doing.

A leader—whether in th
The family, or the church, or the government—which bases  decisions and leadership on the commandments of God and progresses day by day, doing those commandments, keeping those commandments, learning by doing, learning by thinking, learning by studying; will progress, and will develop, and where people may not always follow him, he will be sure of one thing, he will be right in the things that he is doing.

                                   
The key to quality leadership, to godly leadership, to leading the people in the right way, in the right direction for the right purpose and toward right goals is to put God first. It is to learn of God, to learn the things of God to lead people toward God. The second key is to do what is right. It’s not enough just to know; it is important to do what is right and to do what is right; regardless of what other people think. Sometimes a person has to stand alone, sometimes other people just aren’t quite getting it and they need time—time to consider and time to realize that God’s way is the right way.

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The key to leadership. to any leadership is to communicate, to teach. A good leader should be best of all, most of all a good teacher.

                                   
It has been said in the past President Ronald Reagan was called the great communicator. He was considered a good president not necessarily because of all the things he did but, because he could communicate, he could be understood by the people. He had a rapport with the people. Even so, a father should have a rapport with his children and a husband with his wife, a wife with her husband, a minister with his congregants and a leader in the government with his citizens. Being able to teach them; having an open channel to communicate with them, so that he can pass on to them not only what he is doing but why he is doing it. It is much easier to follow someone who explains and reasons why he is making a decision than it is to bluntly obey a command.

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The key  is to communicate, to explain, to reason, and to convince people to follow; whether it is a wife, or children, or congregation, or the population of a nation. To communicate to them, to give them a good reason, to follow you. That good reason being that they understand what the problem is. They understand what you are doing and they’re in agreement because you discussed your reason with them. And they can see the reasons behind the decision and the need for the decision.

                                   
Communication is a key and in the process of communicating and teaching, everyone learns. You have a chance to further reason out your decision. The others who are listening have a chance to learn from your decision by understanding the reasoning you went through to arrive at that decision, and everyone benefits from the process. Everyone learns; everyone comes through the process,  more educated,  wiser, that’s what leadership is about. It is about learning what is right, so that a leader may do what is right, and set an example by doing the right thing, and it is about explaining and teaching those under his care.

How do we lead them?
Well, how does God lead? Is He patient? Long suffering, full of love, is He full of forgiveness or is He judgmental, unfair, unreasoning, how does God lead us? Let us look to His example as our leader, our ultimate leader.

                                   
Turn to Matthew 7 and read the words of Jesus Christ: “Judge not that you be not judged, for what judgment you judge you shall be judged. And what measure you met out, it shall be measured to you again.” A wise man does not jump to conclusions; he does not base his judgment on assumptions. He is patient, he takes the time to get the facts, and he makes the effort to get the facts before making judgments. Never judge unjustly or unwisely by leaping to conclusions. Any parent or a husband who leaps to conclusions and judges unwisely will provoke his wife, provoke his children, he will irritate them, he will frustrate them and he will not be building his family, building his relationship with them. He will be damaging that relationship.

A parent or a husband,
For a father must show himself to be wise, to be patient, to be loving, to be quick to understand, and quick to forgive. Always be forgiving whenever anyone comes up and says, “I’m sorry, I’m genuinely sorry. I made a mistake I was wrong,” forgive them. Be quick to put your arms around them, tell them you love them and forgive them for in so doing you were teaching them what your Father in heaven is like. He is quick to forgive. If we don’t forgive others we ourselves will not be forgiven for we shall be forgiven in the same measure as we forgive others. And we are demonstrating to our children and to our wives or to our congregations the fact that God is loving and forgiving. And a little child who grows up never having known forgiveness and love; will not have a fair, unreasonable, true idea of what our Heavenly Father, God in heaven is like. Because he‘s never felt forgiven, he will not understand that God does forgive.

                                   
We need to understand as parents that our relationship to our children is very much similar to God’s relationship to us, that to our child we are like God to them giving them everything that they need. We are the source of knowledge, we are the source of all things to them, and we are like a god to that child who  is totally dependent upon us until that child matures. So, that child’s concept of God is being formed by the example which you are setting. If you are quick to discipline, he will think of God as being quick to discipline. If the child thinks of us as mean or cruel, he will then think of God as mean and cruel. Yet, if we are loving and affectionate and forgiving and patient and kind, the child will grow up believing that God is affectionate, forgiving, loving,  patient and kind. And the child will have a proper relationship with God, born out of a proper understanding of God.

teaching, and much commuch communicating and only when it is absolutely necessary. And then it should be done in love, and when repentance occurs—quick forgiveness is absolutely imperative; for forgiving immediately in the same way that God forgives you.

                                    In dealing with the church, of course you don’t brutalize or punish anyone, you simply say when the person is adamantly continuing in sin that they are better off somewhere else until they get over their particular difficulty. That’s all there is to it. And in marriage, hopefully both parties are mature enough to communicate, and both parties love each other enough to try their very best to accommodate one another and work together; if that is true, then things will work out on the long term.

                                    In conclusion, true godly leadership, the kind of leadership that God exercises and we should emulate, we should copy, and we should look to His example. True godly leadership is based upon love, it’s based upon family, it’s based upon Gods Word. We should follow the Father’s example and follow the Fathers instructions as contained in His commandments and words of wisdom.

                                    Our responsibility is first of all to get informed; to learn the ways of God, to learn wisdom, and wisdom is the sum of knowledge plus experience. It is the knowledge we develop from our studies and from the gifts of God’s Spirit who is leading us; it is knowledge combined with the practical experience of acting on that knowledge and doing what we have learned. When we develop wisdom, then we can lead.

                                    Leadership is based upon the wisdom and love of God, upon the commandments and words of wisdom of God. Once we have that wisdom we can exercise true leadership, by doing things the way that God does things; by exercising patience, long suffering, gentleness, meekness and kindness, being zealous for the commandments of God, being zealous for all the things of God. If we have several children, and one is hurting the others, are you not distressed by that? Well, God has many billions of children and He is distressed to see them all going about hurting one another. So, He is going to do something about it, He’s going to put a stop to it very soon. And it’s up to us when we see one child hurting the others to put a stop to it. When the second child responds and reacts to the hurt and a fight develops we have to say, “No. Don’t react come to me and you let me deal with it as your parent.” God does the same thing, he says, “Vengeance is mine, saith the Eternal.” He’s not talking about getting the guy; He’s talking about correcting the bad behavior because He loves all of us, even those who are bad. For He gave His only begotten Son that none should perish. He did this while we were all yet His enemies; we were all wicked. God gave His Son for us. Christ gave Himself for us because He loved us so much, while we were yet enemies.

                                    You ministers, should love your congregants, should love your sheep enough to be willing to give yourself totally for their good not using them to aggrandize yourself, not taking advantage of them, not lording over them, but serving them and through that service also serving God. You husbands should serve your wives and your families in the same manner, giving yourself totally for their good. And a large part of that means sharing your time with them, reasoning with them, talking with them, studying God’s Word with them, teaching them and helping them to learn to do good. This is your responsibility because in so doing you are learning to oversee the house of God.

                                    In the kingdom of God, do you honestly think that you will become a king or a priest in the kingdom of God when you can’t even discuss the Scriptures with your own family? How is it that you would think that you could lord it over some nation or some city or fulfill some responsibility in the kingdom of God when you can’t even rule your family well, when you can’t even teach your children the ways of the kingdom, the laws of the kingdom, the things of God? You must be able to lead in order to become a king or a priest, you must! There is no way around it. You must use wisdom and teach your children and reason with your wife and study these things together and learn together and grow together and in that way you are developing your teaching ability. You’re developing your talents and skills at communication and training to become a king or a priest. There is no way that you can become a king or a priest in Gods kingdom without paying the price, without paying your dues, without learning how to fulfill the responsibility. And we are learning to fulfill the responsibility of being a ruler in Gods kingdom by at this time, being the rulers in our own households and doing so; wisely and justly, and fairly, and patiently, and lovingly, and forgiving.

                                    Yes, this family is all about preparing for, training for, and learning to be in a position of authority in God’s kingdom. The family was given to us as a classroom to prepare us, to fulfill greater responsibilities by allowing us to fulfill somewhat lesser responsibilities. We must be leaders in our family, be leaders in our church, and for ministers we must do this thing in a godly fashion. If we’re bullying now, we’ll be bullies in God’s kingdom and God just doesn’t have time for those kinds of people. He loves all of His children and, believe me, He’s not going to put a dominating, self-centered, egocentric bully in charge of the ones He loves. It’s not going to happen.

                                    We must all be humble before God; we must all follow His example. He is strong for His law because His law protects His children and He loves those children, He loves all His children and He will protect all of them. And if that means using some discipline with the few of them in order to protect them all and cause those who have gone astray to straighten up; then He will do it. But He is not by nature a disciplinarian. He is love. He is patience. When we sinned, does the sky fall in on us does thunder and lightning strike us every time we do something wrong? If that were true, none of us, not one of us, me included would be around, for more than a few minutes I dare say. God is patient with us. He hopes we will learn and only when we don’t learn after a prolonged period, after much guidance, much instruction, much help only then does He discipline. And when we repent, He quickly forgives.

                                    The coming tribulation. called the great tribulation; is God’s merciful correction upon His people who are obstinate, self-willed, rebellious, disobedient, egocentric, bullying, self-righteous, and who are not humble and not submitting to Him. When that happens they will repent quickly and He will forgive quickly. 

                                    Remember anyone of you who might find yourselves in the great tribulation. The  Great God forgives quickly those who seek Him with a true and contrite spirit, those who truly seek Him with all their hearts. Repent quickly and  He will forgive quickly and welcome you into His kingdom. We, as fathers and mothers need to teach our children buy forgiving quickly so that our children will learn what God is really like. As they’re growing up they will be used to understanding that; if they’re really sorry and really repent and really change they will be forgiven and that they are loved no matter what they do, as long as they’re trying to do what’s right and when they do wrong and they realize that, they change for the better. Those people who know having grown up being loved, being forgiven, being cared for; they will understand that God loves them. God cares for them. God will quickly forgive them as long as they’re trying to do right and are quickly repentant when they realize they’re wrong. God is love, the ministry and the church should be love, the father should be love, and the husband should be love, and the mother and wife should be loved and children should complete the cycle by loving their parents and by loving God.

                                    This is all about family, it’s all about love, it’s all about training to be a part of God’s family, training to be changed in the spirit and become the children of God, never equal with God, always the children of a loving Father.